Hi, my name is Meghan and I am a Mother in Recovery …
I grew up as an only child in a single parent home. My mom worked a lot, I was often with babysitters. My dad suffered from alcoholism and mental health issues and was in and out of my life in a very inconsistent and damaging way. I felt misplaced and alone from a very young age.
At 12 years old I was performing sexual acts, drinking and doing drugs to fit in. The four years I spent in high school were a struggle, I spent hours in the counselor's office discussing addiction issues, eating disorders, and mental health problems.
I didn't care if I did well in school, my main focus was on my newly found social life that involved much older friends and gang members. At 16 I was involved in situations I shouldn’t have been. I was often raped and used for sex and in turn was given free drugs.
By 20 I found myself in a women's drug treatment program trying to battle the demons that had followed me for so many years. I unfortunately didn't grasp the severity of what was happening in my life and discharged myself from the program early.
The next six years of my life I lived the only way I knew how, I lived to survive and feed my addiction. I dated my drug dealers, endured domestic abuse, both physical and emotional all with the main focus being on using drugs.
In 2014 I ended up pregnant, not knowing who the father of my child was. I made the decision to keep my baby, I thought that this unborn child would fix everything.
I immediately faced challenges of not being able to stay clean during my pregnancy, I used drugs almost daily. My son was born in 2015, he was premature. Zain stayed in the NICU for 3 weeks before I brought him home.
Having Zain in my life didn't fix anything, I was a fall down mother, I couldn't met his basic needs, let alone my own.
The summer of 2016 I began leaving Zain alone to go use drugs, or I would bring him with me to drug houses to make sure I could get my next fix. My life revolved around using, which meant so did his. By the end of the summer my mother intervened and removed him from my care. This was a turning point in my life.
On October, 2, 2016 I entered a women’s treatment program once again and left everything I knew behind. Thanks to the 8 months of care that was provided to me I now have 2.5 years clean.
Today Zain is almost 4, he’s smart, curious, and thriving. Being a present mother has been the biggest gift I’ve been given. I couldn’t imagine my life any other way, I’ve learned to take care of my own needs in order to be there for my son, I’ve also learned and benefited from so many other mothers who are walking the same path I am. Today I know Zain and I will never be alone.
Recovery has given Zain and I a bright future and many things to look forward to. Being clean has been something to celebrate everyday, I honestly never believed people when they said it keeps getting better, but it really does.
The love that finally fixed me, was my own.
Mother’s Recovery Tribe Society exists to create a empower mothers on ALL paths of recovery with the strength found in each other. MRT needs financial support to continue to provide and increase access to these critical resources for mothers in recovery from addiction, poverty, relationship breakdown and abuse of any kind. We believe that when you help support one mother recover, you help a whole family heal from the affects of addiction. To reach our goal, we need your help.
We do recover – but never alone.
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Frances Stone is President of Mother’s Recovery Tribe Society and lives her life passionately as an advocate for ALL mothers on ALL pathways of recovery. Frances is a Certified Addictions Counsellor, Author of A Reflection of Love ~ A Different Kind of Love Story and Former Radio Co-Host of Talk Recovery Vancouver, a show about addiction and recovery issues, located in the DTES of Vancouver, BC. Frances Stone’s greatest love and passion is for her three clever, curious and challenging growing tweens & teens!