Mother's Day (& More)
by Frances Stone – Ms. Recovery Writes
Mothers Day 2014. I thought it would never come. I had faith. I believed it was possible. But, I'm not gonna lie, I doubted it all the time.
Maybe, I will let the story of my Mothers Day 2014 speak for itself.
First, I am awake before anyone else and writing this from my bed in a room where I sleep like a baby, in a home that I love, that feels like the first home I’ve had since my mothers home.
I am home. That is huge.
Yesterday, my children’s father went shopping with our children to pick out presents for me. Today, I will receive them. Not as his wife or girlfriend, as though those are the only titles with worth, but as their mother and his friend.
I told our daughter Maya that I chose a very good Daddy for her, but I did not know how to choose a good husband for me. We have been through a war together—he and I—and come out the other side with a level of trust and value that is not given, but won. I am very grateful for how we are both allowing the story of our past to change the future for our children.
Next, I will go with my sister, Liz to our mother’s grave. I lost my mother in February 2013 and I still think of her and miss her every single day. I was not that close or connected to her when I was growing up, but when I entered into the recovery process and truly trying to follow God, she became my best friend and strongest ally. Every time I feel my grief and sadness of losing her threaten to overwhelm me, I feel grateful to God for that second chance at loving her.
After that, I will stop by the New Westminster welfare office at 1pm to support the Mothers Day Stop the Clawback campaign. This is the campaign being organized to stop the government from justifying stealing, dollar for dollar, child support from BC's poorest kids.
It’s an injustice I feel so strongly is morally sickening that I just cant walk away and forget about it. It's wrong. It needs to stop. Period.
Then hopefully I'll have a rest, because I’ve learned that stopping is as important as going. Then it will be the night service at The Salvation Army. I love my church. They are some of my favorite people. It took a long time to find people that build me up and guide me, who I can be honest with and accept me as I am. I love them and they love me and my kids.
We are never alone. That is a relief.
So that will be my Mothers Day 2014. Full of gratitude for the life lived yesterday, that lead me to the life I am living today. Life today is full of challenges and rewards, but mostly peace, purpose and possibilities. I can truly say I love my life and that is the reward of my faith in God and in the recovery process. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, but yet unseen and today, I am seeing what I have believed.
xx, Frances & Family ♡ Happy Mothers Day!!
Frances Stone is the Author of A Reflection of Love ~ A Different Kind of Love Story, a Recovery Counsellor and a Radio Co-Host of Talk Recovery Vancouver, a show about addiction and recovery issues, located in the DTES of Vancouver, BC. In her spare time, she does laundry and mothers three clever, curious and challenging little humans.